The Two Things You Need to Know Before Buying a Car

I’m in the market for a car. My last one was smashed up. Gam Zu le Tova. Even this is for the best.

I once wanted to find a car that runs on water. But I didn’t find any dealers.

So the next best thing I thought, was to get one that runs on ethanol. The gas is much cheaper. But some say that the lower price is a compensation for lower gas mileage.

But then I thought of another issue that is much more important than gas mileage.

You’re probably asking – “a Car?”

“What does that have to do with Judaism?”

Obviously you don’t want to be ostentatious. A modest car will do.

But the Torah says “Guard Very Much Your Souls.” (Devarim / Deut. 4:15)

Meaning be careful to be prudent to stay safe.

Stand far from rails in the subway. Don’t drive too fast. If tired driving take a break. Don’t talk or text on cell while driving…

The list goes on. Teach it to your children. (We offer a Free Health & Safety Coloring Book)

Many people spend time in cars – thus it make sense to make sure it is safe.

Safety aspects to consider are – airbags, side and front collision strength, etc.

Two websites that will let you know about the safety ratings of a vehicle is –

National Highway Traffic Safety Administration

Insurance Institute for Highway Safety, Highway Loss Data Institute

Remember to purchase safe carseats before taking children.

The Second thing is to consider is what kind of kindness will you primarily be doing – to decide what kind of car you need. If it is to bring your kids to school – a mini-van or SUV might be in order. If it is to drive your mother around – consider a car that is easy to enter and exit. If you need to drive a handicapped person – find one that can accommodate a wheelchair.

Other Helpful websites when buying a car include:
J.D. Power – Car Ratings
Consumer Reports – they offer car-info with a paid subscription
Kelley Blue Book

Evaluate Your Safety

Ask Yourself are you a safe driver. Do People feel assured when driving with you?

Signs it is time to Drive More safely
or do they rush to get out of the car when you stop. Are they constantly telling you to slow down? Do dark haired people come out with white hair after a ride with you? Do your emotions control your speed? Do you text or hold phone while driving? Do you surf web? Do you program GPS in middle of route? Better to talk to GPS than to type. Do you enforce seat belts for people riding in car?

We pray not to get into accidents. We even have a special Jewish Traveler’s Prayer to arrive at our destination safely.

Prudence starts with the type of car. A SUV is usually safer than a compact car. Each time a person drives it is prudent to assure passengers always wear seat belts – even in back seats. Children should always be buckled before driving.

Better [to get there] late than never.

Drive Safely.

Bringing Up Children with Self Worth – Rehabilitating a Jewish Thief

In parasha / Torah Reading Mishpatim we learn

“When you acquire a Hebrew servant, six years he shall work and in the Seventh Year he shall go free…”

This is one of the first Commandments that the Jews receive after leaving Egypt.

It talks about a servant that was sold because he stole and couldn’t pay back the money of the object he stole.

The master is to treat him like a member of the family. If he has one pillow he gives it to the servant. If he has one bed he gives the bed to the servant. This is the way that we rehabilitate a Jewish Thief into society. We build up his self worth so that he recognizes his great value and will not stoop to stealing in the future.

The same is true with children. We teach them to self worth so that they will not fall prey to a low self-esteem and to crime or other vices.

Time to Get Over It – Becoming Better not Bitter.

People live lives based upon an occurrence that happened to them.

Yes, we should surely learn from experience. Yes – everything happens for the good. Yes G-d had some positive reason for it to happen.

If this experience helped to become a better person fine.

If it helped him to become a bitter person – then they lost the message of G-d.

G-d wants his children to be happy. Some people have propelled themselves to heights through overcoming difficulty. Athletes. Business people. Musicians. Artists. Inventors. Scientists. People from all walks of life.

Other have become the complainers. The deniers of G-d. The haters. The abusers. The bullies. The hermits. The self-pity-ers. The naysayers and those with the negative attitudes towards life. They blog about the negativity of the world. They cast negative stereotypes on others – who are similar to those that made them suffer.

Suffering is a two edge sword. Some take it as a reason to look at the world with negative lenses. Some take it to cut the cake and eat it. Like it says – the pessimist sees the glass half-empty. The optimist drinks it.

You chose your attitude. “He made me sad” is not a reason – it is an excuse. You may not control what happens. But You control your attitude. And you can choose to be happy or bitter. It is in your hands.

Obviously each should seek help from others. Each should work on their self esteem. Each should take the time to learn from the suffering – to overcome it. To learn what good came out of it. And to look at the good in everything G-d sends.

That is the goal of suffering – to become better not bitter.

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Recently  Got a Text:

If: A B C D E F G H I J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W X Y Z  is equal to: 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20 21 22 23 24 25 26


H+A+R+D+W+O+R+K* =8+1+18+4+23+15+18+11 = 98%

K+N+O+W+L+E+D+G+E=11+14+15+23+12+5+4+7+5 *=96%

L+U+C+K  =12+21+3+11 = 47%

None of them makes 100%.* *Then what makes 100%?

Is it Money?


M+O+N+E+Y= 13+15+14+5+25 =72%

Leadership? NO!

L+E+A+D+E+R+S+H+I+P=12+5+1+4+5+18+19+8+9+16 =97%

Every problem has a solution, only if we perhaps change our “ATTITUDE”…

A+T+T+I+T+U+D+E ;* 1+20+20+9+20+21+4+5 = 100%

It is therefore OUR ATTITUDE towards Life and Work that makes OUR Life 100% Successful.

Amazing mathematics

The Secret Message in the English Alphabet

English is a derivative of Latin. What is Latin’s origin? Latin is a derivative of Hebrew. Hebrew is the mother of all languages. But who made the Latin Language?

Ever wonder why in English some letters names start with the sound they represent (Bee – starts with B sound, Dee – starts with D sound, Jay – starts with J sound.) and some letters end with the sound of the letter? (ef – ends with f, el – ends with L, em – ends with m, en ends with n.). In the Hebrew Alphabet all the letters names start with the sound they represent.

Just recently a Rabbi said a “Dvar Torah” that enlightened me of the reason. He received photocopy of an essay from a Book from the Herzog Research Group about the subject of the origin of language of Latin. He gave me a copy. The book is called:

מחקרים במדעי היהדות לזכרו של ישראל מ’ תא-שמע

מחקרים במדעי היהדות- כרך ב – מקורותיו האלפבית הלטיני
שניאור ז’ ליימן מקורותיו הרבניים של האלפבית הלטיני: עקבותיה
של אגדה ימי-ביניימית אבודה

Ta Shema / Come & Hear
Research on Jewish Studies – Volume 2

The Rabbinical sources of the origin of the Latin language

Shneur Z. Leiman
Rabbinic sources of the Latin alphabet: Lost traces
of the medieval times

It says that comparing – the Hebrew alphabet to the Latin Alphabet English it is clear that the Latin came from Hebrew.

Here are Hebrew letters that correspond to English

Kaf, Lamed, Mem, Nun correspond to English letters K,L,M,N

Ayin, Peh – correspond to O, P

Quf, Resh, Sin, Taf correspond to Q,R,S,T

The document says that eL eM eN are names of Latin letters that are actually words in Hebrew.

The document explains a verse in Ovadia 1:1-2 – which says:

The prophecy of Obadiah. We have received tidings from the LORD, And an envoy has been sent out among the nations: “Up! Let us rise up against her for battle.” Thus said my Lord GOD concerning Edom:

I will make you least among nations, You shall be most despised.

The verse is talking about Edom – the Roman Government. Rav Yosef explains – that the Romans were denigrated because they had no writing and no language. Rashi there states- that they are denigrated because they do not have their own own writing or own language.

Rashi on Talmud Avoda Zara 10a states- The Romans writing and language comes from another people. Even their books were written by others.

Rabbi Yehuda Ben Barzilai from Barcelona (who lived around the 12th century) – writes in his explanation of the Sefer Yetzira.

“The alphabet that comes from the people who err (ie, the church) …they made 23 letters* that they took from our [Hebrew] language and other letters they found…they have no writing or language for they took writing or language from others and from here and there.

…all their language came from one (some say another) pen.

some of their letters names start with the sound they represent [Bee – starts with B sound, Dee – starts with D sound, Jay – starts with J sound.] and some letters end with the sound of the letter. [ef – ends with f, el – ends with L, em – ends with m, en ends with n.]

Also you find that there are 23 letters in the Latin Language. The 3 middle letters surrounded by 10 letters before and 10 after them – are EL, EM, EN.”

The person who made the language for them – inserted a code in the Alphabet

EL – in Hebrew means – “G-d”

EM – in Hebrew means “a Mother.”

EN – in Hebrew means “Does not have”

“The Message “G-d does not have a mother.”

“For the creators of the alphabet – since they knew that there was no substance to their [the Roman’s & the Church’s] ideas – wrote our [the Torah’s] truth – to publicize and contradict the lie that is lacking, without sense and they call god – one who is a man. Therefor they came and placed them [those letters – L,M,N] to contradict all their errors – and to tell the truth with those three letters – that He [G-d] has no mother – and that is [what it means] A mother of G-d, there is not.”

The creator of the alphabet knew that the Church wanted to propagate ideas contrary to the Torah – so the creator of the alphabet – put that message in the middle three letters.

The Author Brings another source of Rabbi Meir ben Shimon Hameili – from Narbona in his sefer Milh’emet Mitzvot:

Behold in the Letters it is written L, M, N. “G-d, a Mother, He has not.” Behold the [Torah] Sages that instituted the letters- that it is not proper to believe and say that G-d has a mother. This is a great allusion against the their faith that according to what the nations believe in their faith.

The question – the Author of the essay asks – is that why did the author of the alphabet write the message in Hebrew?

He answers that – the author of the alphabet and the author of the New Testament were Jewish Torah sages. They were forced by the Roman government to come up with the Alphabet and the New Testament. So they put messages in the Latin Alphabet and contradictions and irrational concepts in the NT.

He brings another source – written in 1705 by Yohanan Yaakov Holdrikus – in his book.

The sages were put on an island. They were forced to write a language that promoted the laws of “J.” They wanted to allude that all the laws that they were commanded to include were all falsity – so they put a Message into the whole Alphabet.

They made a statement in the meaning language’s letters names.

This is their message:

AB – is Abba in Hebrew – meaning Father [this refers to the father of the occidental nations – Esav / Esau] / אבא

CD – Tzideiwas a hunter – [hunting for food for his father] / צידי

EF – Ayef in Hebrew means he was tired – [since his children believed in “J.” or because he went hunting] . עיף

[G] – his son J.

HI – H’aihe lived / חי

KL – Ka E-llike he was a god. / כ-אל

[their mind was blasted]

Because G-d Has no mother

K – Ki means like or because /

L – E-l means G-d

M – Em – means mother / אם

N – En means has not / אין

[and “J.” had a mother.] He was a Heretic.

OPQRS – Apikorus he is a Heretic / disbeliever in Torah / אפיקורס

TU – ta’uHe made a mistake

wx – ma’akeshhe was stubborn

yz – Yazid – and was intentional sinner

[like his father Esav – who ate bowl of stew.] [from his brother Jacob who bought his birthright for a pot of lentils].

The message above is consistent with our Torah sources. The Church censored the the Talmud. The Jews collected the censored parts and put it into a book called – H’esronot HaShas / חסרונות הש”ס / The Omissions of the Talmud. It includes the story of “J.” (in Talmud Tractate Sanhedrin) The story about him says the same thing as the message  that he was an inciter to idolatry and committed 5 cardinal sins – one of them denying the existence of G-d.

The True G-d is in the Word G-d

Someone Recently pointed out to Me about the “Gematria” / Numerical Value of the Word “G-d” and the Word Hash-m is the same. The name of Hash-m in Hebrew Has the Gematria of 26 (10 +5 +6+5). 26 is a well known number – many people make a multiple of this number as pledges to Torah Causes. They give $26, $52, $260, $2600. The Letter “G” is Letter number 7 in the English Alphabet. The Letter “O” is Letter number 15 in the English Alphabet. The Letter “D” is Letter number 4 in the English Alphabet. 7 + 4 + 15 = 26. Another Hidden Message – the True G-d is Hash-m.

What now?

7 Noahide laws exist for all gentiles to learn what G-d really wants for a person.

The Shulchan Aruch is the Jewish Code of law – telling us the laws from the Torah for Jews.


*Some Latin letters were added later – thus our Alphabet has 26 letters

From Omniglot

Roman alphabet for Latin

The Romans used just 23 letters to write Latin:

There were no lower case letters at first, and K, Y and Z used only for writing words of Greek origin. The letters J, U and W were added to the alphabet at a later stage to write languages other than Latin. J is a variant of I, U is a variant of V, and W was introduced as a ‘double-v’ to make a distinction between the sounds we know as ‘v’ and ‘w’ which was unnecessary in Latin.

Mind Control – Controlling Your Life & Body with Your Mind

It’s all in your mind!

You control your body, your mood, your energy level and your healing with your mind.

Recently at a Talk called “The Key to Your Mind” by Dr. Peter Reznik, he demonstrated the power of thought.

The Power of Truth – the Lie Detector

He requested a volunteer. David* raised his hand reluctantly and was chosen. In front of the crowd, Dr. Reznik said “stick out your arm.” He did so. “I will try to push it down with two fingers.” He did not succeed.

Dr. Reznik said “Say ‘My Name is David'”. The volunteer, telling the truth, did so. Dr. Reznik tried to push down David’s arm with two fingers, without success.

Dr. Reznik then told him “Say ‘My Name is Peter.'” The volunteer, telling a lie, did so. Applying the same force, Dr. Reznik tried to push down David’s arm with two fingers, with success.

Telling the Truth, David was stronger. Telling a lie made David weaker.

The Power of Positivism

Dr. Reznik said “Think of a pleasant experience”. The volunteer did so. Dr. Reznik tried to push down David’s arm with two fingers, without success.

Dr. Reznik then told him “Think of a negative experience”. The volunteer did so. Applying the same force, Dr. Reznik tried to push down David’s arm with two fingers, with success.

The obvious lesson is – telling the truth and thinking positive thoughts makes a person stronger.

Mental Exercises

Dr. Reznik conducted four exercises to allow a person to determine their mental state.

One was for a person to imagine he or she turned into a tree. After taking some deep breaths and closing their eyes – they imagined themselves as a tree. He asked what kind of tree they were, what was the background, how deep were there roots. Analyzing the answers he was able to roughly determine their state of thought.

A Second Exercise was for people to imagine they were in a box. He asked – What happened? Many said – they broke out of the box.

A third exercise was imagine that one captured a Yellow Leaf in their hands. He asked what happened after they let go of the leaf. Many answered.

Another question was to imagine themselves trying to escape from a cave – yet a rope was attached to them.. They were asked “Who is holding the rope.” This demonstrated how a person can determine their impediments.

I guess the maxim “don’t worry, be happy” has some validity to it.

*Name Changed

How to Starve a Cold – advice from the sages

I used to never get colds. Those were the days. I mean the days that I drank orange juice daily for breakfast. I still drink it, but not as regularly.

Just recently I got one.

I think I have to get back into the orange juice habit.

So a first step to prevent a cold is to strengthen the immune system. Vitamin c. Also eat bread daily for breakfast. A good breakfast with at least one ounce of whole wheat bread eaten within 7 minutes within the course of the meal will protect you from heat or cold.

But let’s say someone already had a cold. What now?

There are things to avoid – poultry, fat meat, dairy, eggs and nuts. I tried it. It calms the symptoms of a cold. This is what it says in talmud. / Berakhot 57b

Guess it’s also good to stay warm.

My Quick Encounter with an Atheist – the Question He Could Not Answer

I asked a man for the time. He told me.

Ready to walk away, I thought he looked interesting. I asked him if he wanted to learn about the 7 Noahide Laws for all Humanity.

He declined. He exclaimed he was an atheist.

I asked him [if you believe so] ‘Where does the world come from? Does it make sense to you that the world was created by randomness?’ He grumbled something, but nothing to defer the claim of irrationality in atheistic belief.

There are no random molecules that could have created a flower. There are no random molecules that could have created a baby. There are no random molecules that could have created even a cell. The first one and even more the second.

You have two types of people or attitudes.

One person is willing to go all out for truth. Even if it means changing their lifestyle or disregarding their beliefs or belief system.

The more common attitude – I hold of a certain position based upon my lifestyle or upbringing – and keep it as long as it can suit me. I don’t question it. I don’t want to change.

The first is the attitude G-d wants us to take. For he knows if one follows truth he will come to find what G-d really wants from us. He gave Torah to enable us to reach that state of freedom.

The media and the marketers prefer the second attitude to keep you glued to big brother – whatever your big brother may be.

G-d knows what’s right and wrong. Do we?

Lesson for Life – the Proper Reaction to UN Resolutions Against Israel

Don’t judge yourself based upon what others say.

Some will say you are nice. Some will say you are bad. Don’t judge yourself based upon them.

As is obvious with most UN resolutions against Israel they have nothing to do with reality. Really. If I were to say that Joseph Kilgour was the first President of the US (POTUS) because I saw a film with him acting as the first president, you would say ‘that is nonsense’. Changing history to support your agenda is also nonsense. Perhaps the theory that the UN is made up of Aliens that seek to dominate the world is also true? Once you inject lies into a discussion – anything goes.

So what’s a person, annoyed by the biased resolutions, to do? Complain? Condemn? Protest? All are mostly a waste of time. You will not get someone who has a grudge against you to change, unless they are a special person. You will not get them to change. Your efforts will be in vain.

better to use this anger as momentum to change yourself. The point is to not benchmark yourself based upon others. Like the popular saying goes – sticks and stones may break bones but names will never harm me. Yes. If you don’t take them to heart.

There is an expression in French that says “The Dogs Bark and the Caravan Passes.” I don’t determine my self worth based upon others. I don’t determine my goodness or the opposite based upon others. I have a higher standard to use as a guide & a benchmark – the Torah.

A Nation that Dwells in Solitude

We should really say thank you to the UN. For they remind the Jewish people of the Torah Verse:

“כי מראש צורים אראנו ומגבעות אשורנו, הן עם לבדד ישכון ובגויים לא יתחשב”
“I see him from atop the rocks, I behold him from the hills – this is a nation that shall dwell in solitude, and will not be counted amongst the nations” – Bamidbar / Numbers (23:9)

When we only are concerned about our spiritual perfection as guided by Torah – we won’t need to be concerned about what others say. When we are doing right in the eyes of G-d, we don not need the approbation of the nations – we live according to the standards of a Higher Authority.

Living the Torah Standard – to emulate G-d – we become the Light to the Nations. Living to emulate the nations – we become the derision of the nations – as seen by the UN votes, the Nazis, etc.

The Messages of G-d

G-d sends us messages every day. The messages are sometimes – Tsunamis, Acts of Terror, UN Resolutions against Israel, Hurricanes. The point is to decifer the messages to improve ourselves. If we hear the message – we need not that it be repeated or said louder.

So instead of giving !@#$%^&* for tat or becoming all ruffled because of the Anti-Semitism disguised as votes in the UN – become better. Take a Mitzvah. Say OK let me use this dissatisfaction of others in a positive way. Let me take upon myself another mitzvah. If I differenciate myself from the nations – by observing Torah & Mitzvoth – I won’t need the UN or the Nazis to remind me. I’ll take care of differentiating myself & G-d will take care of them.

Choose Life! Choose Your Manner of Uplifting or Downfall

G-d knows all. G-d runs the world Middah Keneged Middah. Meaning measure for measure. Do good – get good. Do bad – and get bad from the same source.

Thus –

It’s good to be good.

It’s bad to be bad.

Not only does a good person live a happier, more peaceful life but they do not cause their own downfall.

The detriment of sin worse than punishment – the loss of potential

In a philosophical discussion with my cousin, he asked “If you could do any sin – and not be held accountable – what would you do?” I thought about it a moment and answered “Probably nothing.” Why? There are several negative aspects of sin – One is one does bad to another or to society. Another is the punishment. But another is the bad done to oneself. If I were to chase after women, I would waste my life. Not establishing a family, not bringing up children with proper Torah values, not contributing to the building of society is not worth the temporary pleasure of transgression.”

In Torah it says – “A person only sins if a spirit of folly enters him.” Why? Because if one put serious thought before sin they would never sin. It would never make sense. The loss would always be more than the gain. Take a person who steals. His gain – the value of object stolen. The loss – the pain to the person he stole from. The fear that the police will take them to jail. If caught – the time spent in court, the time spent in jail. The loss of freedom.

Honesty is the best policy.

Punishment – from sin itself

The wicked Haman, in the Purim story – built a gallows that was 50 amot / 100 feet high – to hang  Mordechai, the Jew. What happened. Mordechai was saved. And Haman was hung with his 10 sons on the gallows he made.

In the same story – Esther, risked her life to talk with the king to save the Jewish people. Her life was also saved because Haman’s plans were foiled.

A person was depressed. they decided to focus on doing kindness with others. eventually, their care and efforts for others propelled them out of depression to a meaningful existence.

A man who had trouble marrying off his daughter – pledged to finance the wedding of a poor couple. The couple, grateful to the man, knew someone that was a fine candidate for his daughter. They eventually got married.

Do good and receive good.

G-d says – I have placed before you good and evil – life and death. Choose life.

Our job in this world is to Choose Life!

lighten up – lightening your load physically, emotionally and spiritually


my shift-keys are not working.

thus i type lower case.

it’s ok.

it makes things easier.

there are ways to get around it. copy capital letters from other places. PUT ON CAPS LOCK. change the case in the word processor.

everything is good. even this.

i’ll deal with it eventually.

but now i’m happy. no need to shift.

G-d is good. He feeds the whole world. He sends our income and sustenance. He also sends difficulties and challenges. but all is for the good.

some people act like donkeys – not in the pejorative sense – but they take one problem and put it on their back. another one comes along. they hold on to the other problem. another. until the straw comes and breaks the ‘camel’s’ back. they snap.

it’s not supposed to be that way. G-d sends us challenges for our ultimate good. problems are like detours in the road that ultimate lead you to the good path.

a person should generally be happy with life. that should be their general mood – be happy. don’t worry – be happy is a Torah concept in 4 words.

so how does a person lighten up. bills are piling up. no job. no spouse. no income. no friends. what now. [the period should be a question mark. sorry – the shift problem.]

lightening up is easy. there are three venues – the physical, the emotional and the spiritual.

why be concerned about the physical. when one is in good health and shape they feel better. here are some tips.

physical lightening up

  1. eat a balanced diet
  2. don’t eat till you are hungry
  3. don’t eat till you are full – save some space
  4. walk a bit after a meal – it helps the digestion going.
  5. sleep on your left side – it helps digestion
  6. eat light meals.
  7. eat a good breakfast – before midday – with bread, preferably more than an ounce of whole wheat bread – without sugar or sweeteners in the bread – eaten within a span of less than 7 minutes. having a solid breakfast – with bread – will prevent you from snacking meals.
  8. eat healthy snacks.
  9. eat fruits and vegetables before meal.
  10. eat in moderation
  11. chew well
  12. eat in a calm, relaxed setting
  13. avoid too much meat [like Maimonides – the rambam – who was a doctor and rabbi, says]
  14. exercise. stay in shape.
  15. do needs regularly. [remember to say asher yatzar – prayer for good health]
  16. fast once a week – from morning to evening. [even if you have breakfast]

obviously, you must know your own constitution. what your own body needs. consult a doctor if necessary. some people avoid salt. others need salt for their constitution.

emotional and psychological lightness

a person’s emotions have an effect on their health. thus being emotionally healthy, helps a person to be physically healthy.

  1. avoid anger. if one is temperamental – it befits them to read books on the subject – like anger, the inner teacher by rabbi zelig pliskin.
  2. look at the positive in every situation.
  3. look at all the good you have in life
  4. don’t talk badly about others.
  5. don’t watch, read and listen to negative tidings – news, etc.
  6. avoid negative people.
  7. know that G-d is good and does good for us every moment – like a loving father.
  8. keep calm – Hash-m / G-d is in control
  9. believe it will be good and it will be good

spiritual lightness

after Yom Kippur – i feel lighter – not only because of the fast but also because i let go of a load of sins that kept me down. i relieved the load from my back. at times a person feels depressed because of the spiritual. they have everything they need physically, emotionally and psychologically – but they still feel sad. this could be a sign of spiritual deficiencies. i myself know, from experience, that transgression brings a person down emotionally. so if one wants a lift – and to lighten their load – the first step is to know the proper path to spirituality.

some think that spirituality is found in exotic places like the far east, or thailand or india. sorry – wrong address. why. because spirituality is closeness to G-d. G-d only appeared once in the history of mankind to an entire nation – composed of millions of people. they heard Him speak directly to them at the revelation at mount sinai about 3,300 years ago. G-d doesn’t change his mind. so, obviously the Torah is the law that G-d gave to achieve ultimate spirituality. if a person took this to paragraph to heart – they would save thousands of dollars and much time and effort – by knowing that the address to spirituality starts with Torah. first one must find the right path, then pursue spirituality. if they do not, they end up churning water.

i tell you this from experience. i sinned. i ate non kosher. i didn’t observe the shabbat [a Gentile does not have to eat Kosher and does not observe the Sabbath]. i didn’t keep many other laws. when i transgressed i felt heavy. down. out of it. saddened. when i put my act together – and did teshuva / repentance – i felt lighter and happier. holiness and happiness are synonymous.

lightening up spiritually

  1. remove yourself from transgression – Jews follow the Shulchan Aruch – code of Jewish law and Gentiles follow – the seven Noahide commandments – given to the Jews at mount sinai in the Torah for all humanity to follow.
  2. do teshuva / repentance – the steps to teshuva include – 1. cessation – stopping doing the misdeed. 2. commitment – firm resolve never to repeat the deed. 3. regret – sincere remorse for wrong one did. 4. confession verbally admitting to G-d / Hash-m the wrong one did and asking forgiveness.
  3. learn torah – have a regular schedule to learn Torah through attending lectures, reading books, listening to audio etc. see the links sections
  4. eat kosher – eating kosher purges negative spirituality from one’s system. guard the mouth.
  5. avoid transgressions involving desires of the body. – ie, guard the eyes, the heart, the touch. celibacy is good to purge negativity and desire from one’s system. a person celibate can make a better decision for a marriage partner.
  6. purity in thought – think pure thoughts allows you to lighten your attachment to the physical.
  7. avoid listening and talking badly about others
  8. physicality can be used for spiritual or holiness. one should choose to use it the proper way. physicality can be used to bring a person up or down. a person eats Kosher food – brings himself up. a person who eats pork and non-kosher food brings themselves down spiritually.
  9. go to the mikve – purifying waters
  10. for married couples – keep family purity laws
  11. women – keep laws of tzniut. tzniut is loosely defines as modesty. it entails laws of how a Jewish daughter dresses. today’s society’s motto is dress to impress. to tell you the truth – i don’t need that pressure. remove that pressure – you remove a load. you would rather have a person appreciate you for your innner quality and beauty – rather than your outer garments – that have nothing to do with your inner self.
  12. do kindness with others – when you do you feel better about yourself and feel purpose in life
  13. know your purpose and pursue it – you have a particular purpose – find it out and go full speed ahead to achieve it
  14. keep yourself occupied with doing good for others. actively pursue doing good – according to Torah. If you are not sure if an activity you are involved with is good according to Torah – ask a competent, reputable orthodox rabbi.
  15. have a close relationship with G-d – call out to Him for anything. ask Him for all you need. express yourself to Him. ask Him to direct you, guide you, show you the proper path in life, protect you. He is your loving father. you always have someone who loves you, will listen to you, and will help you through any ordeal or concern – no matter how big or small. you can never ‘bother’ G-d / Hash-m. He always answers anyone who calls out to him sincerely.
  16. solve your problems – don’t complain. take action to improve your lot. at times G-d sends difficulties for a person to become closer to him. resolving to follow in His ways can solve problems two-fold. one – G-D no longer has any reason to send you difficulties – if you are following his path. two – following the torah path helps a person avoid difficulties. a example is a person who eats Kosher will likely not get swine-flu. or a person who is celibate will not likely not get herpes. or a person who keeps Shabbat – will have better family relations – because they eat meals together at least once a week.
  17. be happy with what you have.
  18. be thankful to G-d and to people around you
  19. have a positive attitude
  20. Have emunah and bitachon in Hashem – having faith that G-D is good and does only good to you – is one way to lighten your load. read the book ‘living emunah – a guide to serenity in daily living’ – first and second edition – by david ashear is an excellent book to help a person built this attitude.

G-d wants you to be happy. you just have to believe in Him and yourself and your half-way there to lightening up your load.