You have to get back to your home office. Tons of things to take care of. You chose the home office either because of convenience or by force majeure – see covid restrictions.
One reason why we get angry is because I have to be productive – this cute little kid is preventing me from doing so. I have important work to get done – this kid is stopping me.
Just Shout – The Easy Way Out
The shout comes out. Poor kid. Poor you.
G-d gave us kids to educate them to become good, kind people. He gave us a pure kid and expects that after 120 years he remains pure, sweet and nice.
That’s one reason why we put them in a Torah School. So how does that help me not to get angry?
Are You Really More Productive by Shouting
At the moment we are in “I have to get things done mode” We think – my productivity is more important than my educating my kid to be a “Mench” / good human being. I am being productive doing work – I am not being productive catering to my child’s whims.
Productivity in Education
Stop right there. That’s where we err. By responding kindly and with care – we are teaching our child to be kind and to care. We are being tremendously productive in educating our children how to properly respond in stressful situations. How to act nicely even under pressure. What can be more productive than teaching a child to be a kind, caring, sensitive person?
Did You Win the Education Game?
You shout – you lose. You lose the opportunity to teach kindness and patience.
Treat every act as an act of building.
That is what Torah is about: building – building people, building relationships – with people, ourselves and Hash-m.