You get a new addiction. Addiction to the baby.
The baby cannot do much for himself.
He cannot get food. Cannot move from one place to another. Relies on you to burp him and change diapers.
Basically, your role as a parent is to serve the baby.
Some think they received a new toy, but really they should ask who is really the “master” and who is there to serve?
It is an existential question “Are we the master of our tools or are our tools our master?” A good example is a cell phone. But that’s not the subject.
To truly realize what our role is – we the a look at the Torah.
The Torah gives a commandment for children to Honor their parents.
Our obligation to honor our parents – which means basically to do their will (obviously as long as it does not contradict the laws of the Torah) – teaches us the tremendous gratitude due to our parents.
As much as it teaches us our obligations towards our parents, it also teaches us our great gratitude due to Hash-m. Hash-m / G-d brought us into the world, gives us life, gives us ear to breath, water, clothes, a job, money, a house, a car, everything.
So what does a person do – “I want my child to get the best secular education.” Good. Very Good. But what about morality. What about Torah values?
“I want to let them choose.” The problem is is that children learn most of their values by the time they are three. If you are watching sports – and your neighbor is having a Shabbat Meal with the family – Your child will learn the value of sports. His child will learn the value of Shabbat, family and respect of G-d – doing the Shabbat is one of the 10 commandments for Jews (Gentiles do not observe the Sabbath – according to the 7 Noahide laws.) If you talk politics all day long – your child will learn to be a politician. If you teach them to be kind to all people they will learn to be tolerant. If you teach them to accept the VALUES of all all people – they will learn to be degenerate. Some people’s values are to be cannibles or to do human sacrifices or to do terrorist acts.
People should respect people. But their values should be clear – of what is acceptable and what is not. What is right and wrong? Only G-d Knows.
That’s why He gave us a Torah to teach us proper values. The Torah is the only divinely given law that millions of people witnessed its giving. When the Jews received the Torah at Mount Sinai.
The first one to serve is G-d / Hash-m. Then Yourself. Or others. Do this and you will be happy.